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Good News Brief Weekend

Hebrews 13: 16  And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.  (NIV)

Hello Everyone,

How many wives have failed miserably in trying to change your husband?  To my knowledge some changes may have taken place but they went the wrong way.  These changes weakened the male spirit and watered down his desire to excel.  What causes this to happen is not the changes the wife is trying to make in her husband but it’s the fact that the man eventually finds himself unacceptable and his self-esteem becomes damaged.  He’s convinced that his marriage is in trouble because of something he did or failed to do.  The key word here is failed.  No one likes to face that word in any way shape or form.

The problem began in the garden when Eve was not satisfied and began talking with the serpent.  She was looking for an edge in life and the conversation with the serpent awakened her curiosity.  The rest is history.  She didn’t listen to God who would provide completely for her and her mate Adam.  She listened to a total stranger and as a result man fell from grace and were banned from the most beautiful place ever to be seen by anyone, the Garden of Eden.  Eve didn’t go to God and ask him about the conversation with the serpent.  She just listened to the serpent.  How sad.  When others hear your story about how your changing your husband isn’t going well you will begin getting advice.  This kind of advice is worth about as much as it costs.  The wife needs to confront God in these issues and follow what His Word has to say.

Don’t try to change your husband.  God made him the way he is and his nature is to complement you and your nature, which is feminine.  Any change you may try to initiate will begin to alter the image he has of himself.  Some men say that the change the wife tries to enforce in their life has no affect.  In reality it does.  Once the wife initiates the change, Satan goes to work to destroy the relationship.  That’s his job and he does it well.

The solution, leave the husband as he his and admire his strengths which God built into his nature.  Appreciate his strengths and pray for his walk in Christ.  Come along side him and partner with him in his work. 

I know of a young wife who was frustrated with her husband who was always working on the family car.  When she asked her neighbor, whom she had known a very long time what to do, this is what she was told.  The neighbor asked the young bride if she enjoyed being with her husband.  She of course replied “yes”.  She told the young bride that if in fact this is true then the solution is easy.  The neighbor pointed out the window toward the husband still under the family car and said, “Then go be with him.”  The bride then bolted out the door and into her own house, reappearing moments later in jeans and a sweatshirt.  She crawled under the car beside her husband.  They were there for quite some time.  The neighbor noticed from then on that when the husband was working on the car his helpmate was always beside him.  This neighbor had learned from experience.  She wanted to be a part of her husband’s life as well.  She did the same thing many years before and this began a growth in their relationship that lasted many years.  Sound advice.  But husbands let your wife help.  Teach her and help her learn more about the things you enjoy.  Give her a chance.  You help her do the dishes, laundry, or other chores around the house.  You will easily find more time for one another, and believe me my wife is much more fun than my other male friends.

Do good for one another, and seek areas in which you may have a common interest and share your lives with each other.  For this God is pleased.

Husbands and wives, share with one another.  Build on the new interest you share and God will be pleased.  Attend church together.  Become a part of a small group Bible study.  Talk to each other about Him and watch your relationship grow toward each other in Christ.

Prayer:  Dear Father in Heaven, bless our lives this day as we look for that deeper relationship in You and with each other as well. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

May God richly bless us as we continue seek His will, and His way, through His Word.

Have a GREAT Day!!!

In Christ,

Rev. Ted J. Wilkins

Founder and Director of “Good News Brief For Men” Ministries
© 2013 Ted J. Wilkins “GNBFM Ministries”