Share Together? You're Kidding!

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Good News Brief Weekend

Hebrews 13: 16  And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.  (NIV)

Hello Everyone,

How many of you wives have ever noticed your husband talking with a friend in the yard or driveway for what seems like hours, and when he comes into the house he suddenly becomes silent?  You’re ready for conversation but he just clams up giving you short single word answers to each probing question you ask.  What happened?  Well, Ladies, it’s not you.  It’s the nature of the man. 

We as men tend to communicate better with our own sex.  Listen to our conversation when we meet some new guy who has just moved into the neighborhood.  Within three minutes we know where he works and what the does for a living, how old he is, and what his favorite sporting activity is.  Maybe, just maybe in the first conversation we might even find out if he’s married and has a family.  Church?  Maybe later (a week or two down the road), as we don’t want to seem too pushy.  The wife on the other hand probes for information as well, but in a different manner.  Women seek information through the same techniques most every time.  The wife wants something deeper, where a husband is satisfied with a great superficial relationship which allows us to hide our feelings quite well.  You see, a man’s feelings hide deeper beneath the manhood only to be let out when a Superman is required to get the job done.  This gives man the feeling of invincibility because we never, never, never lay all our cards (so to say) on the table.  It makes us too vulnerable and leaves us wide open for attack.  Christian men in general don’t like the verse for today. Doing good?  No problem!  Sharing?  Now wait a minute….define sharing.  We know what the word means but what kind of sharing do you want?  Knowing men and being one, I truly understand the last part of the verse, for it is a sacrifice for us to share deep-rooted feelings even about God, with others even our own sex.  But God is pleased when we reach deep inside and draw on our inner strength and courage knowing that our inner strength only comes from the Holy Spirit who dwells in every believer.  So each believing man who has studied God’s Word will have a healthy dose of God’s contribution in his life each time the man calls upon God.  And believe me, when it comes to visitation, the man always calls upon God.

To date I have been married to my only wife for over 40 years.  I had heard that your wife should be your best friend.  Well, how can that happen?  Well men, women want that kind of relationship and actually will work more toward that than we give them credit for.  I’ve heard men ask, “Well, I married her, isn’t that enough?”  Take it from experience, no, it isn’t enough.  And believe me, with your wife as your best friend, it just doesn’t get any better than that.  I eat with my best friend, talk with my best friend, share my goals and desires with my best friend, go to bed with my best friend, get up in the morning with my best friend…..is that enough said about my best friend?  There is actually so much more but you won’t see it here.  There is not a single married man who has a best male friend better than my best friend is to me.  Except for work, we are together all the time, and when we are not together, we wish we were.

Guy’s, does your life seem void of that person who could be as close as you envision your very best friend to be?  There is an empty part in your life that God has placed there that only your wife can fill.  It’s neither the sex, nor the physical even though they both rank extremely high on the list for the needs of a man.  It’s that personal relationship with your wife that many of us often avoid for the most part because we don’t understand it.  Adam was the first man.  His best friend was Eve.  Need I say more?  Ask God how you can become closer with your wife.  Ask Him to guide you to her.  This should never make us vulnerable for that is Satan’s lie tied up with massive ropes of pride.  Satan keeps us from developing a tight close relationship with our wives by telling us we don’t need that.  In fact we do need that and God expects it of us.  You will never regret it.

Men, its time we moved toward God in His desire for us to become His men.  It’s never too late to become best friends with your wife.  You will never regret it.  Share with her today.  Feel free to talk openly about what God has done in your life.

Prayer:  Dear Father in Heaven, move in my heart today and give me your desires for my heart that I may be pleasing in your sight knowing that all you want to give me is your very, very best.  Help me to look to you in all things.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Tomorrow, we address the wife (your best friend).

May God richly bless us as we continue seek His will, and His way, through His Word.

Have a GREAT Day!!!

In Christ,

Rev. Ted J. Wilkins
Founder and Director of “Good News Brief For Men” Ministries
© 2013 Ted J. Wilkins “GNBFM Ministries”

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